“Dragonfly” Holidays? + Tips & Scripts
The dragonfly has been around for more than 300 million years and is generally associated with the symbolic meaning of transformation. Here are some common meanings it holds:
Change and transformation
Adaptability
Joy, lightness of being
Symbol of the realm of emotions, invitation to dive deeper into your feeling
Being on the lookout for illusions and deceits, whether are external or personal
With the holidays at hand, the New Year on the horizon, wouldn’t this be a great time to transform limiting beliefs into ones that better serve you? Why not give yourself and others the gift of love and forgiveness and leave regrets behind? Perhaps it is the perfect time to resolve the pain from the past and generate greater peace within.
Forgiveness of self and others, letting go of regrets, is usually a good place to start.
A few suggestions are below to help you get started. You’ll notice the first two suggestions are meant for yourself. In order to find life more fulfilling, more capable of comfortably participating in life, self-love and acceptance essential!
Letting Go Of Regret
Set-Up:
Even though I regret ______________, the wiser part of me knows now is the perfect time to love and forgive myself.
Sequence:
TH: The burden of this regret,
EB: Forever in the back of my mind.
OE: Can’t believe I did (or didn’t) do that!
UE: This regret that makes me see myself as less than
UN: This regret that makes me sad and ashamed,
CH: I’d like to open to the possibility
CB: I was doing what felt right in the moment.
UA: I’d like to love and forgive myself, no matter what.
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Forgiving Yourself
Set-Up:
Even though I’m convinced I don’t deserve forgiveness, I’d like to feel differently now, open to the possibility that maybe I do.
Sequence:
TH: All this embarrassment and shame,
EB: What was I thinking?
OE: How could I let that happen?
UE: Still can’t believe it!
UN: All this grief and guilt
CH: Unforgiveable
CB: Undeserving and unworthy
UA: It was so wrong!
TH: So tired of feeling this way
EB: But reluctant to let it go
OE: Don’t think I deserve to feel better
UE: But if there’s a chance make a difference for others
UN: Maybe it is time to love and forgive myself
CH: Restoring my power and strength
CB: Feeling good about what I could offer
UA: To myself and others.
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Forgiving Others:
Set Up:
Even though what they did feels unforgiveable, I am wise enough to know by letting this go I am not letting them off the hook, but freeing myself.
Sequence:
TH: Can’t do it!
EB: Won’t let them off the hook!
OE: Still hurt and angry
UE: Still devastated
UN: They don’t deserve forgiveness
CH: They seem to have no regrets
CB: Just going on with their lives
UA : As if nothing’s happened
TH: Still holding this in my heart
EB: Still feeling the pain
OE: But maybe it is time
UE: To free myself
UN: Maybe it is time
CH: To transform these discomforts
CB: To peace and strength
UA: I’m ready to own my power now.
Emulate the symbology of the dragonfly. You can do it!
And by the way, if your holidays include time with dysfunctional family, you might want to check out this article: Dysfunctional Family Holidays
Hearing from you is always appreciated. Thanks for asking questions, sharing thoughts, feelings or suggestions.
With heartfelt gratitude,
wishing you enjoyable holidays and all the best in your endeavors,
